Mental Conditioning by Jimmy Hensel // Train Your Values Until They Become a Behavior

One of the most important mindsets for a values-based person is to remember that we must train those values, so they become the foundation of strength we operate from. Our values should be force multipliers in adversity. The adversity we face should remind us that we need our values because they are the foundation of strength we can attack the adversity from. This principle is not true because I say it is; it’s true because it’s the way we are wired as human beings; it’s as true as gravity. Training your values is just as important as becoming an expert at the right thing to do / the skill / the job / the task.

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Mental Conditioning is vital! If you don’t train your values, why would you think your values will anchor you in adversity or keep you grounded in success?

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WHY you do what you do, is just as important as being good at WHAT you do. We have to train our values because the values are supposed to be the filter that helps us make the right choice and the lens we use to create a vision for our lives daily. The values are the position of strength or foundation that allow us to do the right thing, the right way.

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People forget about values when things are too easy, or everything is alright. As humans, we care about values and character in cycles. We forget that values are key to keeping our freedom from destroying us until the enemies of freedom use it against us and we are forced back to the fundamentals. Back to listening to our souls for the reminder that all the comfort we live in was handed to us by generations of people that sacrificed everything for that freedom.

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Expecting yourself or anyone else to behave the right way is a foolish ideal unless we train our values, until the right thing to do is intentionally connected to the right way to do it, and that response is as close to automatic as humanly possible.

Who needs values when all the dragons to fight are already dead!? WARNING! The Dragons aren’t all dead!

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Keep Coming Forward

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Jimmy Hensel

Define Your Family Workbook

COURSE HIGHLIGHT: MAYHEM MINDSET FOR FAMILIES

Does your family make decisions based on positive values you’ve agreed are foundational for your lives? Who are YOU? What do YOU believe? What are YOUR core values together as a family?

Many families cannot answer these questions. When asked to write or speak about what we believe, most answers are a vague idea that cannot be articulated. 99% of the families I know make all their decisions based on emotions and momentum. Let’s face it; most of us do not make the best decisions when we rely solely on our emotions.

What else is there beside emotion? The answer to that question is values. “Positive values anchor you through adversity and ground you in success!” 

We created a Mayhem Mindset basics course, the Define Your Family Workbook, designed to guide you and your family in identifying, articulating, and writing down the positive values you believe in, creating a tool to help you make choices and decisions that will allow you to become 100% of the individuals and family you were created to be!

It is available as an electronic PDF in the SHOP tab. Check it out!

Keep coming forward, TOGETHER!

Jim Hensel

Mental Conditioning by Jimmy Hensel // Become a Better Thinker...

5 minute MAYHEM MENTAL CONDITIONING exercise

The average person (average = common, not out of the ordinary) doesn’t want to be free, they want to be safe. 

If this is true, then average people obviously will not be good stewards of Freedom or even understand how to operate in Freedom. 

What is the truth about FREEDOM in your life? Which does your behavior seem to say you value the most, FREEDOM or SAFETY? Do you give your FREEDOM away in exchange safety or comfort? The truth is that both are vital in an intentional, values-based mindset.

  1. What can you do to separate yourself from being average today?

  2. What can you do to get outside your comfort zone and live “Free” without sacrificing the safety you owe to the people who are counting on you.

  3. Write your answers down, there is creative power in writing! -Strength and Honor 

3 2 1 GO! 

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Jimmy Hensel

Mental Conditioning by Jimmy Hensel // Shame lives in "SHOULD"

So many people experience shame that causes them to lie to themselves and to lie to others. That shame causes them to hide and run from what they say they believe is the truth. Consequently, shame causes them to almost involuntarily comprise their values, all while those values are the key to freedom from the shame. As a result, they live in a constant state of weakness and rejection with no clear way to recover. It’s just true that all of us have experienced this in some manner; it’s part of being human.

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I believe that shame lives in Should. For example, I should work harder. I should eat healthier. I should treat my family better. I should get to the gym. I should quit this dead-end job. I should not be afraid. I should not worry so much. I should stop lying. I should quit sinning. What’s starts as a healthy reminder from our gut, consciousness, or our heart reminding us to live out our values, turns to shame as we avoid the truth.

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It’s not enough to identify our truth. It’s not enough to talk about our truth. It’s not enough to ask for accountability. Conquering shame is accomplishing by Doing and by creating Done in your life.
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What’s the flip-side? Continue to live a less than purposeful life. Continue to compromise your values while allowing your emotions and the momentum of life to push you around, all while the shame from never really committing to living out your values keeps you from becoming 100% of the person you were designed to BE.

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The problem is not the shame; that’s the emotional result of an underlying problem. The initial barrier to moving forward is admitting to the problem that causes shame,but that’s not enough! Most importantly, you must attack the problem by creating a plan to destroy it, then execute that plan inside of your daily routine based on what you believe, not just what you feel. How do you create a plan? Here is the formula: Identity + Values + Routine = Vision or Plan
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At first, you will not feel good about this! You must create the energy (energy = the fuel to do something based on right action according to your values in spite of how you feel) necessary to move forward. The freedom you seek will begin to grow as your confidence grows by Doing. When you screw it up, and you will, here is how to respond:
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Mindset Tool:

Admit it: acknowledge your role and responsibility

Fix it: learn from it - communicate, apologize, if necessary

Flush it: re-aim at your values and keep moving forward!
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Commit to turning one of the shame causing Should’s in your life to a Doing and then a Done. Respond based on your values, take action, start working on it, generate movement forward, and watch the shame begin to melt away.

Come work with us if you are looking for a process to develop a vision and a plan.


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Keep Coming Forward!
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Jim Hensel

Mental Conditioning by Jimmy Hensel // Hunt or Be Hunted

I’m not an expert on PTSD by any means, but I have learned that soldiers who primarily have a job as a hunter, intentionally training for missions that put them on offense, always aggressive, training and attacking, are generally less susceptible to the effects of the trauma from PTSD. Conversely, soldiers in more defensive jobs who spent more time waiting or wondering when danger will strike, who feel hunted, are more susceptible to the effects of PTSD, more so than the “hunters”.

It’s interesting to recognize that this is how our hearts and minds are wired. We can use this knowledge to help solve some problems and overcome some of our weaknesses physically, mentally, and spiritually.

PHYSICAL

It’s always funny to me to see that guy with the giant upper body and chicken legs strutting around the gym. He never trains his weaknesses. Try intentionally attacking and training one of your physical weaknesses first thing after you have warmed up. Since your energy level and mental focus are greater before you tired, use this opportunity to create more intensity and prioritize the skill, technique, or body part that needs the most work. It feels much better to grind at something we are good at. It’s much harder to deal with looking bad and struggling at something we don’t do well. It’s just true if you want to maximize your physical potential, purposefully attack your weaknesses.
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Mindset Tool: We are limited by language. Write down in your own words the value of training that weakness, so you get clear about why you're doing it. Write about how overcoming that weakness will positively affect you, and if you don’t address it, how it might eventually hold you back. Next, set a short term goal and a long term goal. Cast a vision for your success. Finally, identify two or three different exercises that address that weakness and put them in your training routine. Success or failure is all about your commitment to consistently training inside a good routine ..... or don’t worry about it and live with those chicken legs ha

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MENTAL

Jordan Peterson said, “Be braver, not less afraid.” That rings true in my heart. It's been my experience that the adversity I have faced either helped refine me and build more character in my life, or it tried to define me, as heartache and disappointment began to overwhelm me. Growing and maturing as a person will require us to understand that we are actually choosing failure when we retreat and hide instead of aggressively attacking the problem.
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Mindset Tool: Strength, not weakness, attack, not retreat. I like to picture adversity as a dragon. If the dragon you are squared off with could analyze and evaluate you, it should see you as dangerous! Don’t avoid the dragon; draw your sword (mindset tools and core values) and attack the dragon!


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SPIRITUAL

The truth here is hard for me to swallow. To make mistakes and fall short of what we say we believe in has always been part of the human condition. The world isn’t safe. Let me use the spiritual term sin. Sin means to miss the mark, it’s an archery term. Sin is everywhere, and you won’t be able to overcome it with the mindset of trying to avoid it. Instead, we must consciously, daily attack our shortcomings with the intent to destroy them based on a clear plan. It’s just true that if we keep missing the mark because of the same sin day after day, year after year, then we haven’t honestly taken on the responsibility and challenge of destroying that shortcoming. Truthfully, we have chosen to remain in that sin. Either that’s the truth, or that shortcoming will always be more powerful in your life than what you claim to believe in.
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Destroying the sin in our lives doesn’t happen by just talking about it, bringing it into the light, confessing it, or simply reciting quotes, mantras or scriptures. Accountability is a cop-out unless you are willing, committed, and prepared to fight. That’s just true because we all know people who have shared all the details of what they say are the shortcomings in their life, asked for support and help, but nothing ever changes for them. In my life, it took losing everything, rock bottom, sink or swim, before it got real for me, and I still have to fight for my truth every day.

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Mindset Tool: If you can’t be safe from sin, be dangerous to it! If you have the courage and you know you're prepared and committed, try this exercise. Make a list of your shortcomings. Based on what you believe about it, rank your sin from the worst sin to the white lie. Just the act of honestly writing this down will help reveal how serious about this you are. Next, create a plan. What are you willing to do in order to destroy the sin?
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To be successful, what you decide to do has to be anchored by your personal understanding of what purpose and identity is in your life and grounded by a clear understanding of your strongest beliefs or your core values because that’s how you hold yourself accountable and accurately aim at what you believe is the right thing to do. Next, set your goals and execute your plan inside a consistent routine until you destroy the dragon or get good at driving it away.
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What’s the alternative? Continue to lie to yourself and others. Continue to hide or run from your shortcomings while allowing your emotions and the momentum of life to push you around, all while the shame of never really committing to living out your values keeps you from becoming 100% of the person you were designed to BE.

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Hunt the dragons, or they will hunt you.

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Keep Coming Forward!

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Jim Hensel

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